To the Mama with a miscarriage..
Hi friends, Mother’s Day is almost here, and it’s weird this year. This will be my first mother’s day without our sweet baby Lucy. If you’re reading this post, there’s a chance you too are trying to figure out life without your child here on Earth. If you haven’t read our story, you can here.
First, I’m sorry that you are in this very sad and horrible situation. I’ve realized more than ever that every loss is different. You can’t compare it to one versus another. Also, every person deals and copes with loss differently. I’m grateful that I have a beautiful baby boy on this side of Heaven, but I’m heartbroken that we won’t see our sweet Lucy is this lifetime. Maybe you’re there too…trying to weigh the good found in life with the “I wish it was this way…” thoughts. I’m sorry.
This week, we celebrate Mother’s Day, and as a child I only knew of this day as a happy day. I was blessed with an incredible Mother who led and loved (and still does!) well. It wasn’t until I got much older that I realized Mother’s Day was a challenging, difficult, and down-right awful day for some. This year, it means something a little different to me. For the first time, I will celebrate with a child in Heaven. I anticipated this would’ve been a date with excitement – I would’ve been nearly 8 weeks out from delivering our Lucy, but that’s not our story.
If you’re facing all of these same thoughts too – I’m sorry. I’ve learned over the last 4 months that is the best response. I’m sorry. There are no magical FB or blog posts, no magical gifts, no magical ANYTHING that will fill that void – except the love of Jesus and the hope of Heaven.
Today might be hard for you, and I’m sorry. You have reason to be sad. Let me validate those feelings. It doesn’t matter if you knew your child for a few hours, days, weeks, or months – your feelings are real and validated.
This is my prayer for you:
God, I pray that whoever is reading this right now will feel your peace. Lord, if they have lost a child, I pray that they will find peace in your plan. I pray they will find joy today. God, I know that you know the pain of losing a child. Please help every mom and dad that is experiencing that hurt today. Please Lord, give them an unexplainable sense of peace, love, and joy. Thank you God that we have the opportunity to be reunited with our children in Heaven. Thank you for giving your son so we can all have eternal life. Thank you God for our sweet babies that we had the chance to experience the joy of them for moments, days, and weeks here on Earth. God help us to see the goodness that is still around us. God, you are so so good.
Cheering for you, mama. You’ve got this.